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- Apr 26, 2013
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- Reason
- Lost a loved one
- Diagnosis
- 05/2013
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Can you feel me doing the happy dance? :lol:
Your legs in particular needed that break and rest so much, it will have done them a lot of good. We just can't explain our situation to anyone can we? If we try, it sounds like we 'complaining', when we are 'explaining', and it can sound like we 'don't want to', when it's actually 'we don't want this to happen to our loved one'.
I'm so glad you now have DSIL and DBIL trained and your hubby saw that he survived it too. Can I suggest something - try to get them as involved as possible now.
What happens very often is that if people don't start helping, and then keep helping, suddenly our PALS is very progressed and people are scared as anything. If they 'keep their hand in', they find they are adjusting to the changes and it's not so scary.
I'm not sure how often they can be around, but even just being there for visits and helping with little things here and there can make a big difference. It can also help reduce his anxiety as DH can feel more confident with their help.
Your legs in particular needed that break and rest so much, it will have done them a lot of good. We just can't explain our situation to anyone can we? If we try, it sounds like we 'complaining', when we are 'explaining', and it can sound like we 'don't want to', when it's actually 'we don't want this to happen to our loved one'.
I'm so glad you now have DSIL and DBIL trained and your hubby saw that he survived it too. Can I suggest something - try to get them as involved as possible now.
What happens very often is that if people don't start helping, and then keep helping, suddenly our PALS is very progressed and people are scared as anything. If they 'keep their hand in', they find they are adjusting to the changes and it's not so scary.
I'm not sure how often they can be around, but even just being there for visits and helping with little things here and there can make a big difference. It can also help reduce his anxiety as DH can feel more confident with their help.
